The Success Within: Steer The Ship

How am I telling you that a relationship with growing pains can be beneficial? It all depends on how you steer the ship.

The reality is that you are going to go through hardships. It doesn’t matter how hard you try to have an easy life. My relationship, while not perfect, is one of the best parts of my life. I did not get here by becoming lazy once I got married. My wife and I worked hard to get to where we are today. We communicated, we struggled, and we came out on the other side. Life is not all sunshine and rainbows.

We learned priceless life lessons being together for over 10 years. My life is better because of everything we learned from each other.

We all have preconceived notions of what a relationship should look like. Our subconscious navigates us to these made-up standards in our brains. We broke through these fake realities that would have left others in shambles. The reason we had issues, in the beginning, was because we had a picture-perfect partner created in our heads. We realized that life isn’t a movie. Fairy tales do not exist, but we can strive to get as close as we can to them.

My wife and I created problems where there weren’t any. We were figuring each other out, the good and the bad. We struggled and we survived. My wife and I laid the groundwork for how our relationship would grow and then took action on it. This is one of my biggest strengths. I can face adversity and get past it while growing. It is all because I have wired my brain to win.

I said it many times in this book, problems are opportunities for growth.

When I was younger, I thought I would be alone forever. The path I took was one I created. Negativity kept me stuck. My past relationship experiences would not allow my current relationship to flourish. I told myself that I wanted someone to spend my life with. The truth was I wanted someone imaginary. A perfect partner that would not challenge me to grow. I wanted an easy way out with no hardships. My life was spent searching for “the one”, but what I needed was someone to allow me to grow.

There were times when I thought that I was worthless. I felt my purpose had good intentions but was damaging to myself and others. This journey to only accept perfection is the biggest crock of shit you will ever come across. Once I accepted this, a brand new world opened up to me.

I told this personal story of my relationship in the last two sections for a reason. My story is here to help you realize that hope is never lost. You may have found a life partner that you didn’t go through tough times with. Life might be easier for you in some regards. Maybe, you have lived a rockstar life with many partners many times over. You may have lived your life to the fullest up to this point. My life was not easy in these departments. I told this story to show you how to identify “dark spots” in your life. The takeaway I want you to have from this section is – If you think you are not winning in certain aspects of your life, you can turn it around through your thoughts and actions.

My relationship could have gone either way. I could have taken either direction at that crossroads. The ship could have been steered off course. Our brain is powerful. It will steer the ship in the direction we tell it to.

Which brings us to our next incantation, I am built to succeed.

Our brains already have the programming for a successful life. We need to make sure the right outside information is being uploaded to it daily. What we think we want and what we say we want may be different. How we steer the ship is what will get us to our goals.